Responsibility of a Brother

GregorArturo · 11-13-2008, 02:37 AM

So there is an issue that has been struggling within me for awhile and I am pretty confident in my resolution, however, I think I would feel more comfortable with such a concept as to discuss it with my fellow Avalonians. I have two brothers, one who is 21 and the other 12. I live with my parents in Maine while the the other brother is in school in Connecticut. My intuition for the past year has been heavily reinforcing in me that I need to stay home as they need me more than I need them.

Anyways, I feel I have a great deal of responsibility for my youngest brother, and it one of the main reasons I still live at home (actually, moved back in). I helped raise him, and feel much more than a big brother to him at times. He is one of my best friends. And he has so much promise in this world. He is very intelligent, is great at designing and creating things and is absolutely full of creativity and curiosity.

However, with the times to come, I have been debating the notion within me if things get bad, when they get bad, and especially if at a sudden extreme that could happen, do I take my brother into my full responsibility if my parents continue to be naive along the lines of thinking their son is "crazy" (aka me), disregarding whatever I have to say. If you all understand this controversial idea without me elaborating further on it, I would appreciate very greatly other peoples' views on the topic. Thank you and namaste.

371 · 11-13-2008, 02:44 AM

I'd say leave it up to him. It sounds like he'd probably choose you anyway. Just let it be his decison.

Dantheman62 · 11-13-2008, 03:10 AM

If things really get bad you won't have to worry, because your parents won't think you're crazy any more, everybody will be aware at that time.

11-13-2008, 04:14 AM

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Originally Posted by 371

I'd say leave it up to him. It sounds like he'd probably choose you anyway. Just let it be his decison.

Listen to the man, Gregor, advice doesn't come any better than this.

shybastid · 11-13-2008, 04:16 AM

Greg Touchy subject....

1) Torn between good and bad,and protectionism, with naive parents, and saving your little brother from everyone BUT you is a stoic position to take.

2)Teaching your little Brother at his age, between right and wrong,at his age, by your definition,is commendable..but is it your right or destiny?

3)What can you provide,other than spiritual guidance, financial,educational,or ROOF over the head, that he can't wait to find in 5 years?

4) Do you have a Sponsor, other then his/your mom and dad,that can provide these means to grow? THEN let him choose?

Noble gesture to be sure. I mean no disrespect.Your very articulate.

A tent in the woods is'nt enough.

Can ya provide for him and you on words?

I enjoy your responces in the forums.

GregorArturo · 11-13-2008, 04:17 AM

Merci à tous de vous! Who would of thought such a complex question really only requires such a simple answer. I have my faith in that regards.

GregorArturo · 11-13-2008, 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by shybastid

Greg Touchy subject....

1) Torn between good and bad,and protectionism, with naive parents, and saving your little brother from everyone BUT you is a stoic position to take.

2)Teaching your little Brother at his age, between right and wrong,at his age, by your definition,is commendable..but is it your right or destiny?

3)What can you provide,other than spiritual guidance, financial,educational,or ROOF over the head, that he can't wait to find in 5 years?

4) Do you have a Sponsor, other then his/your mom and dad,that can provide these means to grow? THEN let him choose?

Noble gesture to be sure. I mean no disrespect.Your very articulate.

A tent in the woods is'nt enough.

Can ya provide for him and you on words?

I enjoy your responces in the forums.

Well said. I would only be able to make such a decision I find in a chaotic situation. I might be leaving this summer for Northern Maine in the upbringing of a self sustained community. I cannot imagine taking him from my parents if things were bad but not bad enough as technically that would imply kidnapping. But in the event of major rioting and societal fallout, or pending natural disasters who knows, I would leave to go back and get him, while attempting to convince my parents to come along, even though my intuition tells me it a sad subliminal way that it is destined for us to part ways. I only wish they would 'wake up'. But alas, they are a few among many I wish the same.

raulduke · 11-13-2008, 08:38 AM

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11-13-2008, 02:37 AM	#1
GregorArturo Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Southern Maine Posts: 560	Responsibility of a Brother So there is an issue that has been struggling within me for awhile and I am pretty confident in my resolution, however, I think I would feel more comfortable with such a concept as to discuss it with my fellow Avalonians. I have two brothers, one who is 21 and the other 12. I live with my parents in Maine while the the other brother is in school in Connecticut. My intuition for the past year has been heavily reinforcing in me that I need to stay home as they need me more than I need them. Anyways, I feel I have a great deal of responsibility for my youngest brother, and it one of the main reasons I still live at home (actually, moved back in). I helped raise him, and feel much more than a big brother to him at times. He is one of my best friends. And he has so much promise in this world. He is very intelligent, is great at designing and creating things and is absolutely full of creativity and curiosity. However, with the times to come, I have been debating the notion within me if things get bad, when they get bad, and especially if at a sudden extreme that could happen, do I take my brother into my full responsibility if my parents continue to be naive along the lines of thinking their son is "crazy" (aka me), disregarding whatever I have to say. If you all understand this controversial idea without me elaborating further on it, I would appreciate very greatly other peoples' views on the topic. Thank you and namaste.

11-13-2008, 02:44 AM	#2
371 Banned Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 503	Re: Responsibility of a Brother I'd say leave it up to him. It sounds like he'd probably choose you anyway. Just let it be his decison.

11-13-2008, 03:10 AM	#3
Dantheman62 Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: So. Cal. U.S. Posts: 4,205	Re: Responsibility of a Brother If things really get bad you won't have to worry, because your parents won't think you're crazy any more, everybody will be aware at that time.

11-13-2008, 04:16 AM	#5
shybastid Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 145	Re: Responsibility of a Brother Greg Touchy subject.... 1) Torn between good and bad,and protectionism, with naive parents, and saving your little brother from everyone BUT you is a stoic position to take. 2)Teaching your little Brother at his age, between right and wrong,at his age, by your definition,is commendable..but is it your right or destiny? 3)What can you provide,other than spiritual guidance, financial,educational,or ROOF over the head, that he can't wait to find in 5 years? 4) Do you have a Sponsor, other then his/your mom and dad,that can provide these means to grow? THEN let him choose? Noble gesture to be sure. I mean no disrespect.Your very articulate. A tent in the woods is'nt enough. Can ya provide for him and you on words? I enjoy your responces in the forums.

11-13-2008, 04:17 AM	#6
GregorArturo Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Southern Maine Posts: 560	Re: Responsibility of a Brother Merci à tous de vous! Who would of thought such a complex question really only requires such a simple answer. I have my faith in that regards.

11-13-2008, 08:38 AM	#8
raulduke Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: USA Posts: 454	Re: Responsibility of a Brother . Last edited by raulduke; 04-09-2010 at 09:48 AM.