A favor to ask to all at Avalon!

HOPEFUL · 11-22-2008, 02:34 PM

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GregorArturo · 11-22-2008, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by HOPEFUL

I remember you're having a presentation comming up (I think at your school).
Will your parents attend? I think they should see for themself the impact of your research and goodness of heart in public setting rather than private conversation.
I'm sure your speach will be a sucessful one. Invite your parents to stand by you while you're receiving post presentation comments. Let them hear from others what a treasure you are.
If it's an open event maybe some of New England crew members could attend as well. I'm a bit too far, but I would love to see it. Did you think about recording it and sharing it with us?

Hopeful

It's a two and a half hour presentation that I am calling "The Logic of Beauty: A new and unique kind of social experiment exploring the secrets of the universe." It's focused on the universal truths of reality (logic, thought, & beauty) and then branching out from there into history, science, and philosophy. It's also quite a bit more than a lecture. I am trying to get the auditorium reserved at my campus which can hold 1,000 people, and I have a feeling it could turn into a big deal (get alot of attention/publicity) because it's not everyday a 23 year old wants to give a lecture on the secrets of the universe.

And yes, I plan to invite my parents, my family, my entire community! And I'll actually be having professional cameramen who filmed the Olympics in China, filming the event hehe. I'm going all out hehe.

And again, thank you everybody! I believe it really does just come down to patience, and continuing to be just me everyday keeping my smiles and positivity flowing through the house.

Allie · 11-22-2008, 03:46 PM

Hiya

There's lots of good advice - I rather liked Jack's

For many, many young people there is a wall of sorts that exists between parents and their kids - it's as perennial as the grass and is only temporary from what I've seen and feel to be true from my own experience.

It may even be there when you've got kids, Gregor. You won't always understand them, they will hardly ever understand you The wheel always goes around. I believe even Socrates had a beef with the young people of his generation

What I've learned is that when people appear to be argumentative or difficult - or in any other way negative towards you, is to look for their 'intention' rather than their arguement or the words they use to express it. What lies behind them?

From where they view the world, your parent's 'intention' towards you isn't a bad one - they just want to see you get on in the only way they can perceive to be valuable. It isn't a valuation of you as a person - just a sort of worry that you aren't doing it in the way they understand. They don't intend any 'harm' towards you, and I'm pretty sure they love you dearly.

Otherwise they wouldn't give a monkey's what you did.

Step out of the confrontation for a bit and see if you can find their intention.

Allie · 11-22-2008, 03:51 PM

Oops - hadn't quite finished there

I've found things to be much easier when I get stuck in a negative situation with others since I realised that, for the most part, they meant no harm.

In another post somewhere we mentioned that language isn't a perfect medium. Society functions on shared understandings which is why it's best to stand back from the words being used and get to the intention coming at you.

Looking at intention, I've realised that more people care than don't. They just express that care from their worldview and use language that is imperfect to convey what's in their hearts. Their intention is usually well-meaning, however it comes out.

Hope this makes sense.

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11-22-2008, 03:46 PM	#3
Allie Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 161	Re: A favor to ask to all at Avalon! Hiya There's lots of good advice - I rather liked Jack's For many, many young people there is a wall of sorts that exists between parents and their kids - it's as perennial as the grass and is only temporary from what I've seen and feel to be true from my own experience. It may even be there when you've got kids, Gregor. You won't always understand them, they will hardly ever understand you The wheel always goes around. I believe even Socrates had a beef with the young people of his generation What I've learned is that when people appear to be argumentative or difficult - or in any other way negative towards you, is to look for their 'intention' rather than their arguement or the words they use to express it. What lies behind them? From where they view the world, your parent's 'intention' towards you isn't a bad one - they just want to see you get on in the only way they can perceive to be valuable. It isn't a valuation of you as a person - just a sort of worry that you aren't doing it in the way they understand. They don't intend any 'harm' towards you, and I'm pretty sure they love you dearly. Otherwise they wouldn't give a monkey's what you did. Step out of the confrontation for a bit and see if you can find their intention.

11-22-2008, 03:51 PM	#4
Allie Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 161	Re: A favor to ask to all at Avalon! Oops - hadn't quite finished there I've found things to be much easier when I get stuck in a negative situation with others since I realised that, for the most part, they meant no harm. In another post somewhere we mentioned that language isn't a perfect medium. Society functions on shared understandings which is why it's best to stand back from the words being used and get to the intention coming at you. Looking at intention, I've realised that more people care than don't. They just express that care from their worldview and use language that is imperfect to convey what's in their hearts. Their intention is usually well-meaning, however it comes out. Hope this makes sense.