Best preperation: Get out of "survivor mode"

Stop blaming fear for irrationalizations. Yes, people get scared. and they SHOULD. If I'm cooking on the stove and accidentally lean my hand on the burner and suddenly feel like my hand is on fire, I HOPE I get scared and FEAR burning and take my hand away. Instead, if I say (once my hand is on fire) that all I need to do is focus on "the light" and leave my hand on the burner, I FEEL I'm an idiot. I get the point of mind over matter, but until you can control that... don't convce others to rest their hands on a hot stove.