Kind thoughts for Antaletriangle

[Karen]

On a second side note,
i was privy, to an private email, sent to him,
by a moderator--you KNOW who you are, i don't need to call you out,
by your name -- and, all i can say to you,
is shame on you !!!
and, that i hope one day,
someone sends you, something similar
(as, then, and, only then,
you might you KNOW, how it feels to have
someone trample upon you, and, how that might feel)
all, i will say, is that, i was appalled, and, i was shocked,
that you would, do something, so crass.

Susan, saying it is a moderator, but not naming them, is something that I object to - causing members to look askance at each member of our small moderating team.
I also object to your very harsh public judgment and chastisement of this very young lad, Jack. I've seen you do that with other forum members and their objections to it. None of us are perfect yet - we all learn or relearn lessons every day.

One of the biggest problems our world faces is a shut-down in communication when human interaction goes wrong. Since I know some inside scoop on this mod issue, that has now become a public matter, I will tell some of what I know that will hopefully help shed some light on both sides of the issue.

If any of you had been following Jack's recent posts, he was trying to steer the forum in a more positive, proactive direction. But like when I was trying to get something going to update the forum guidelines (esp the one about networking with each other when money is involved, but no guidelines have yet been changed) Jack wasn't too successful at getting other mods to back his project, and he suddenly acted on his own with a post to Wayne, the contents of which I have no knowledge. From my perspective and private communications with Jack, I saw that in his youthful exuberance and excitement over the amazing results of his own personal "thinking only positive thoughts" campaign, he lost or missed the ying and the yang balance of the matter, and very much offended Wayne and whoever else Wayne shared that private email with.

Jack took quite a few hits for this mistake/foopah in mod chat. Almost every moderator sent an apology to Wayne for what happened. Now Jack has not joined us in mod chat since this happened, he has not posted on the forum since the 14th and has not signed in to the forum since the afternoon of the 20th. I myself have decided when feeling snubbed or misunderstood - at least a dozen times - that I really aught to not come back here anymore. And when we fall into that "divide" mentality we are ripe to be conquered. Will we choose to evolve or devolve?

I think Jack meant well, thinking he was acting in the highest good for all concerned, he just failed to look at the other side of his PM to Wayne. How many such mistakes did you all make in your teens and early 20's? This reminds me of the Hawaiian healing technique - "I'm so sorry. Please forgive me. I love you."

I hope Wayne and Jack and many others will return and join us once again, but I also know sometimes we just need to move on to other things.

For those that want to see human communication skills evolve, here's a great site:
The Center for Nonviolent Communication
http://www.cnvc.org/

The Center for Nonviolent Communication is a global network of people and communities committed to living and teaching NVC to resolve conflict and meet the needs of all people.

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If so, you may be interested in learning about Nonviolent Communication.

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