Avalon Singles

[THE eXchanger]

i think its when you give up looking,
they come to find you !!!

[THE eXchanger]

i also think, it is easier, to just dance with the memories,
of what once was, and, leave it, at that,
eventually; things do, come full circle,
so, what purpose, is there, to dating a lot of people,
i am NOT the type, who can lead anyone on
(although, teasing can be fun)

i know from 13 til about 39 - i didn't have any time, in between relationships
and, from 39-48, i went through a
hopelessly loving/hopelessly loved monad
(that's where you love them, but, they don't know what to do with you,
NOR, how to have you on equal footing)
for the past 2 years, i've kind of enjoyed being single

besides, its a lot cheaper, and, a lot less aggreviating
to date in your dreams !!!

and, you can leave that behind you,
when you get up in the morning !!!

and, pick up the threads, where you left them,
before you got out of bed

i don't know, but, myself -- i am really picky

i have no problem with giving love --
however, i know, i have a very high level of discernment,
in what, i do/or do NOT want

ahh !!! it is frustrating, at times to be single

however, i'd rather be single & happy,
than, hooked and snared-and, unhappy

sooner, or later, i am sure, life will deal me up a King of Hearts !!!

[Steve_A]

Hi eXchanger,

To some degree you're right. It's not that you've stopped searching it's that you get noticed more when you are in a situation where you're not actively searching.

In my experience, all of my girlfriends during my life were met through a mutual friend, family member or other third person.

If you reflect back, you will notice, I'm sure, that most people meet like that; through third persons. So when you go out with your mates and they bring along some ot their friends that you don't know, could reap results, as long as you are acting in a natural social manner.

I think the old 'one liners' have gone by the wayside these days. When you are in a social situation, you may be seen as you really, honestly are, where you're not under any pressure to be funny, or intellectual, or extra charming etc. Your true personality will show and there will be an admirer out there, using the social crutch of your mutual friends to close in on you.

Best regards,

Steve

Originally Posted by eXchanger

i think its when you give up looking,
they come to find you !!!

[Humble Janitor]

I don't watch much television but the main character played by Charlie Sheen on "Two and A Half Men" reminds me too much of myself sometimes.

He drinks, he has sex with random women and he can't seem to settle down, no matter how hard he tries.

I really don't want to become that character. I have wisened up and cut some of those things out of my life.

[THE eXchanger]

Lots of interesting advise, and, ideas on this thread

perhaps, the biggest lesson of all

is that many of us, think, we need to prepare ourselves for the worst,
and, yet, love, or real love,
needs - no real preparation

to have it, do it, to be it

like truth, it is, what it is

[piers2210]

Swanny, do you actually know what you want? If you do, and i doubt you do or else she would be standing in front of you, then just visualise that person. They will come!

If you haven't worked out who you want, then its difficult to find someone, because you are projecting uncertainty. Even if you don't realise it, your aura/energy can be "read" by others (even though they also don't know they are reading it).

So: just visualise (very specifically) who you want, oh yeah and.... also go to a different pub.

Atb, P.

[futureyes]

Originally Posted by piers2210

Swanny, do you actually know what you want? If you do, and i doubt you do or else she would be standing in front of you, then just visualise that person. They will come!

If you haven't worked out who you want, then its difficult to find someone, because you are projecting uncertainty. Even if you don't realise it, your aura/energy can be "read" by others (even though they also don't know they are reading it).

So: just visualise (very specifically) who you want, oh yeah and.... also go to a different pub.

Atb, P.

oh-wise-one piers ...

what you write resonates with me ...

we co-create with the universe ... higher power ... whatever one wishes to call it ...

if we are uncertain what it is we want ... that projects it self to the universe and the universe can only do its part once we our selves have clarity ... it's almost like if we are uncertain ... the universe receives that as perhaps we are not ready ... so then there is no delivery of possibilities ...

if we are unclear ... the universe doesn't know who to match us up with ... who to even send ... send everyone? poor swanny to have a different gal delivered to his door step every morning ... may sound appealing but that'd become a little tiresome ...

it is about being clear within our own hearts ... and in the visualizing swanny ... she is halfway through the universe and soon to be on your door step ...

oh-wise-one piers ...

[Swanny]

Hi Piers
She should be happy, about 5'5" tall, late 30's early 40's, long hair, slim, no kids at home oh and about 36C

[Dantheman62]

She's got her eye on you Swanny!

[777 The Great Work]

Originally Posted by Dantheman62

She's got her eye on you Swanny!

[Swanny]

I'm in love

[Dantheman62]

nevermind, lol

[Carmen]

Bugger! Don't fit any of that criteria Swanny, only the first

[rhythm]

EYE EYE SWANEEE !!!!!!


WHT NOT JUST ASK FOR THE RIGHT ONE TO COME ALONG


one who will love you for who you are


and let you be free ...

and not try to hold you too tight ...

And of course snuggle up

when the sun goes down

loverly .....hmmmmm...

[piers2210]

You're a case Swanny...i guess i need to hang out with you, or you with me.....fancy a trip to asia? I'm going again soon!!!

P.

[THE eXchanger]

maybe all the singles, should go together LOL

[piers2210]

Ok, asia tour anyone?? Then on to Carmen's for the ultimate, end-of-world party!!!!! No rules, no recriminations, no money back!!!

[Czymra]

Originally Posted by piers2210

Ok, asia tour anyone?? Then on to Carmen's for the ultimate, end-of-world party!!!!! No rules, no recriminations, no money back!!!

This is just not right.

[piers2210]

C, which part of "end-of-world-party" don't you understand? hehehehehe....i'll look after you.

[Swanny]

Originally Posted by piers2210

You're a case Swanny...i guess i need to hang out with you, or you with me.....fancy a trip to asia? I'm going again soon!!!

P.

Are you 36C??


Where abouts are you going?

[piers2210]

I'm going where the free spirits live.....

No clutter or baggage on me mate....

Freedom!

Why get tied down to someone you'll wish you weren't with in a year or two?

If i ever get together with a woman again she MUST be a free spirit too.....free of all those earthly habits like jealousy, control, possessiveness etc etc....

[Humble Janitor]

Unlike Swanny, I can't really put my finger on what kind of criteria I require in a woman.

It's important that she be sane. I certainly don't want to deal with people who haven't gotten their affairs in order.

[rhythm]

Originally Posted by Humble Janitor

Unlike Swanny, I can't really put my finger on what kind of criteria I require in a woman.

It's important that she be sane. I certainly don't want to deal with people who haven't gotten their affairs in order.

Well i guess that leaves me out Humble

[Humble Janitor]

Originally Posted by rhythm

Well i guess that leaves me out Humble

Well, my definition of sane is kind of flexible.

Basically, I have dealt with people who were looking for nothing but someone to take care of them and their affairs and that is not what I want or need in my life. As long as I never have to deal with someone like that ever agian, I'll be fine.

[THE eXchanger]

Originally Posted by Humble Janitor

Well, my definition of sane is kind of flexible.
Basically, I have dealt with people who were looking for nothing but someone to take care of them and their affairs and that is not what I want or need in my life. As long as I never have to deal with someone like that ever again, I'll be fine.

is sane flexiable ??? the willow tree might bend,
but, eventually, the limbs do break !!!
i kind of view things, this way...as, i PEER, into my own future
(and, here's what i see)
i am looking, for what, it is, that, i can give !!!
that way, i am likely to receive, something that comes back,
that will hold the greatest of value !!!
(much is the only thing, that, can hope, to gather more)
i always want to be, "much" in any equation,
that, i choose to participate in,
isn't that really what real eXchange is all about ???
much gathers more !!!
it all starts, with taking a peer, into your yourself,
and, taking a good hard look, at what you are,
while, asking yourself that billion dollar question...
are you what you want in another ???
and, if you are, i believe, they do show up...
if you are NOT, it is likely best,
they don't show up !!!
'cause you would NOT be ready !!!
when you are ready, they do call
or, at least put in an appearance
also, they oft times, drop into your dreams
as we cross paths, with others there,
before we actually meet them, in the physical 3D earth planes...
maybe, a good idea, to focus on your dreams !