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[Czymra]

Originally Posted by Lunaris

i think i am a gay guy reincarnated as a woman.

Your recent posts really entertain me. Keep going.

[Lunaris]

Originally Posted by Czymra

Your recent posts really entertain me. Keep going.

ahahhahahhahahha!

AHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAAA!

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh..

...a freak amongst freaks...!

hugs

[Humble Janitor]

Originally Posted by Czymra

Your recent posts really entertain me. Keep going.

Oh I think they're humorous too.

In reality, aren't there a lot of guys that consider themselves lesbians trapped in a man's body?

[Lunaris]

Originally Posted by Humble Janitor

Oh I think they're humorous too.

In reality, aren't there a lot of guys that consider themselves lesbians trapped in a man's body?

"in reality"..you say...i would say i have come across this myself as well...


hmmmmmmmmmmmm...

what does that mean???!!!?!?!?


i have 'experimented" as you would say ....enuff..and now i come up with this...

what does it 'really" mean???

that is the question.

my "future" mates are waiting for the "answer" as well..

as am i...

if you have any opinion ...

you are very welcome to say it..

[Humble Janitor]

Nah, I am just very mellow now.

Kind of a dumb question, but are you male or female?

Also, if a man feels like he's a woman inside, he can get an operation for that and so can a woman if she feels like a man inside.

[Lunaris]

ahahaahhhahahha!

i am "mellow now" too!

ummmm..yes..that's what they call "sex changes"

i am not THAT EXTREME...

i seem to find mates in the "art" "music" "actor" "entertainment" scene quite easily...

i have left all scenes..

now i am just a "lone freak'...

i am good with that!

yeah....

i am very very "common" for some peeps!

funny i am so unusual for you!

[Lunaris]

...ohhhhhhhhh..

i am FEMALE

[THE eXchanger]

me thinks, humble janitor, she is yanking your chain

in a g(O)*(O)d sort of way !!! LOL

[Lunaris]

Originally Posted by eXchanger

me thinks, humble janitor, she is yanking your chain

in a g(O)*(O)d sort of way !!! LOL

ahahahhahahah!


i am not!

what's "really going on"

then...

i am really retarded in some ways

[THE eXchanger]

censorship, is alive, and, well, in avalon

[Jack]

Originally Posted by Czymra

Ladies, I really want a comment on this.

This isnt being sexist or anything it is just a fact and of course information like this might seem a tad controversial because it could easily be used to take advantage of woman, which i dont condone in the least. And a fact that a lot of woman will be unwilling to admit. But thats just the way it is, calling a spade a spade.

[Czymra]

Originally Posted by Jack

This isnt being sexist or anything it is just a fact and of course information like this might seem a tad controversial because it could easily be used to take advantage of woman, which i dont condone in the least. And a fact that a lot of woman will be unwilling to admit. But thats just the way it is, calling a spade a spade.

I don't really mean to disarm what you said. In many ways there is more truth in it that I and supposedly many women would want to admit.
Nevertheless, I can easily sum up such a list for men, or for me for that sake, as well.

1. Must looks acceptable, how else are you going to sleep with her?
2. Must somehow appreciate, understand, respect, adore, either or all.
3. Must be mother and whore. Nothing wrong with that. Go figure.
4. May never allow to be completely be figured out or will be dropped like a hot potato.

Now, I've got a list that I may not fully respect, but something that, if the words were not so harsh, can agree with. (Alright, it's my list, tell me if you agree or not.)

But hey, Burgundia has made a valid point. If those 4 points are fulfilled, here I go, I can live with and love anybody, proven fact indeed. Is it healthy and does it make her Mrs. Right? No, because I love to exchange things beyond what's commonly understood as 'value of a relationship'.

This is where it gets interesting though, if I combine what you said with what was said earlier "love men less and understand them more, understand women less and love them more" it ends up either as a complete contract between partners i.e. "We agree to fake love for each other so we both get the gains of it." Or in fact it's a matter of "We recognise these basic necessities but beyond them our love is infinite and unconditional."

Can it be unconditional if the list is fulfilled? I'm not sure, they are conditions in a sense but I wouldn't be surprised if both is true.

I might not have found the right words to get this across, indeed I'm sure I failed miserably, but maybe someone gets it anyway.

Be that as it may, let the ladies speak... and I do hope you gals are honest.

[burgundia]

Originally Posted by Czymra

Ladies, I really want a comment on this.

I am at this stage of my life that for me a man must be spiritually evolved and evolving...I know that I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship where I know what is going in this world and he doesn't even want to know because is not interested in it at all. I noticed that I enjoy less the company of my female friend of many years, because she "is not interested in that stuff", and likes watching certain stupid programs on TV or soap operas. we are drifting apart....

[vipassana]

Originally Posted by Czymra

Ladies, I really want a comment on this.

Here’s my comment on Jack’s post (no offence Jack just my personal view) :-

I agree that probably there isn’t any single person who is mr or mrs right. It’s likely that for all of us there would be a variety of people out there who we might be attracted to.

Regarding the four characteristic’s Jack states that women are inevitably hardwired to be attracted to:-
1.Ability to emote - The ability to react emotionally to different scenarios, if he's in a club and someone spills he's drink he gets a pit peeved off. etc.

I would not be attracted to someone who continually reacts emotionally to scenarios by getting peeved off. This would make me think that the person was unable to discern between dispositional qualities and situational factors. Situational factors, like the name suggests, are factors present in a given situation (like spilling a drink). They are the causes for a behavior: Slippy glass, shaky hand due to an illness, distraction due to worry about someone close being ill, a hemorrhoid flare-up, worry about financial difficulties etc.

Dispositional qualities are qualities which are characteristic of the actor. They define who he or she is: a nitwit, a jerk, clumsy, an arrogant, selfish, no-good, low-down scumbag who ought to be obliterated from the planet.

Someone who fails to give others the benefit of the doubt when a mistake is made by automatically assuming that they are a bad person, clumsy, no good etc would NOT be attractive to me.

2.Protector of loved ones - This one speaks for itself.

Yes I would be attracted to a person with this quality

3.Leader of men - The mans man who is not afraid to voice his opinion and get things done. Has the confidence and charisma to influence other men.

A man would not NEED to have these qualities for me to be attracted to him. A hermit would be fine also.

4. Pre-selection by other woman - If she see's you with a couple of woman with your arms around them having fun or any other similar scenario.

It would be irrelevant to me whether other women were attracted to a man I was attracted to. Furthermore if I was attracted to a man that was flirting with several women it would set alarm bells ringing for me. I would have to check out if he was a player, egotistical, into one night stands because I am NOT attracted to men like that.

I've read plenty of stuff also on what attracts men to women. I don't score well on a lot of the must have qualities etc. The last thing I'll be doing is changing to fit what men want. I'm happy to be me as I am now this moment and if no man is ever attracted to me well so be it.
Kind Regards
Helen.

[Jack]

Originally Posted by vipassana

Here’s my comment on Jack’s post (no offence Jack just my personal view) :-


1.Ability to emote - The ability to react emotionally to different scenarios, if he's in a club and someone spills he's drink he gets a pit peeved off. etc.

[COLOR="Blue"]I would not be attracted to someone who continually reacts emotionally to scenarios by getting peeved off. This would make me think that the person was unable to discern between dispositional qualities and situational factors. Situational factors, like the name suggests, are factors present in a given situation (like spilling a drink). They are the causes for a behavior: Slippy glass, shaky hand due to an illness, distraction due to worry about someone close being ill, a hemorrhoid flare-up, worry about financial difficulties etc.

I should have elaborated a bit more on that. It was in the context that if someone intentionally spilled their drink there would be a desirable emotional reaction gauged accordingly to the scenario. But that was just an example. Ability to emote includes the ability to love animals to feeling sad when something upsetting happens and all the other multitude of emotions we are capable of.

Of course everyone has specific tastes. Likes and dislikes. But this an instinctual hardwired reaction which was in place to ensure the survival of the human race when our acestors lived in tribes.

And in most cases looks dont matter, if a man displays these four characteristics woman will be automatically attracted to him just like a man is attracted to a beautifull woman. Its to ensure that the lineage goes on and the family survives.

Dont ask how i know this, i just do.

[Swanny]

Susan it's ok I don't mind that I wasn't their Mr Right, that really isn't a problem
Just think that it's weird that it happens.
I don't have a problem being single, things are exactly the way they are meant to be.

[Dantheman62]

I can't believe how many people spell your name wrong Swanny!, it's so funny,I mean it's a simple name compared to like Czymra or something. LOL!, no offense to anyone, I mean it really is funny, as in HaHa that's all...oops off topic!....rotes t:

[piers2210]

I like your little men, Dan!! Especially the "ban" one hehehe.

Susan, no way will ANYONE get you!!

P.

[Swanny]

I dont understand why it happens, maybe I should change it hehe

[Dantheman62]

Yeah LOL!, Change it to something like cxzytsvujsw3.

[Swanny]

Maybe I should change it to Swammy

[Lunaris]

Originally Posted by Jack

I'm not quite sure if there is any single person who is mr. or mrs. right. Human attraction is based pretty much on a few different factors and is almost always predictable if not entirely a science in itself.

For a woman to be attracted to a man it is not based on his soul it is based on his attitude and the way he conducts himself which can be changed pretty easily with minimal effort.

Woman are inevitably hardwired to be attracted to men who have four characteristics ;

1. Ability to emote - The ability to react emotionally to different scenarios, if he's in a club and someone spills he's drink he gets a pit peeved off. etc.
2. Protector of loved ones - This one speaks for itself.
3. Leader of men - The mans man who is not afraid to voice his opinion and get things done. Has the confidence and charisma to influence other men.
4. Pre-selection by other woman - If she see's you with a couple of woman with your arms around them having fun or any other similar scenario.

Any man with these four qualities is "Mr. Right". There is no deviating from this as it is a natural survival hardwired trait shared by every single human being on this planet.

Human attraction is entirely physiological and psychological in nature. This is a primordial instinct which stems from the times when human beings lived in tribes. And it hasnt changed one bit since then.

If you want to get mrs right you have to be mr right.

yeah jack...your are definately talking about the "typical" female..

and yeah...a "typical" equation is easy enough to find to explain motives/reactions etc...

i am not typical...

my ex's have had some of those traits but mostly after they met me they would get more attention from females than before they met me...loads of my bf's girls thought were gay till they saw how happy we were together then they all tried to hav e sex with them...

i never hold anyone back from doing what they really want..

but i do like to be fair..whats good for the gander is good for the goose in my opinion!

swanny i totally get you!

all my bf's were much better bf's after they went out with me..but they never get as much freedom as when we went out...but...they are much more understanding for the next girl although they always complain about being smothered...ahahhahahaha!

but when we were together i was accused of not being smothering enuff!!!


aahhahahhahahhaha!

[THE eXchanger]

its funny; thinking about this, as, i see
we oft times, repeat patterns

my pattern, has often been,
men who are too busy for a relationship,
and, then, i get myself too busy,
so, i don't have idle time, to miss them,
and, more often, than NOT they are at a distance,
and, you escape together, once in awhile...
now, i am just too busy having too work too hard
just to make ends meet in a big city...
without going into debt
there are times, i feel, like i will NEVER escape it...
and, there just isn't any extra time, for options
(i am sure, i am NOT the only one who lives this way)
so, i might as well, just build a business
(since, if a business, can work in this economy,
it will likely hold the potential to be a successful one)
i gave up, on thinking, that, a man on a white horse,
was coming to get me
eventually, i will have time, to do some audio /dvd's
and, with the money, i earn from doing those,
maybe, i can go out, and, capture myself a templar mansion
and, turn that into a radiant zone

besides, i guess, i get tired of paying to play,
and, nothing more, than, a bunch of empty promises
i want a partner in life - nothing less will do -
and, as, i am seeing things here, i will NEVER get out of here alone
what is funny; and; ironic about this - is, even though i was alone,
i never built this, for just me, although, at the end of the day,
it is always, just me, against the world, alone -
and, there are days, i think, of mortgaging theplace to the max,
packing my RAV4, and, never returning (too bad, i wasn't in the usa)
here you have to put a lot of money down, to get into a house,
as, a single self-employed female (so, i have too much in, to walk away
from it) besides, edgar casey, always said this area is safe...
i would just rather NOT be in the city - but, out in the country,
and, maybe find a local barn, that i can board a horse at
watching that video on earthship homes on the www.stclairzone.ning.com
was pretty interesting, what 45,000 will build you--
hopefully a few of us, from this area, will attend a course,
in the spring/summer, to find out about it

i value, people who are caring/kind/considerate and thoughtful
and, funny !!! and, are willing to work, at common goals...
hopefully, they would be resourceful, like me --
if i had someone else, that worked as hard as i do,
it would be half as easy to get all the important things done,
and, then, oft times, i wonder...
do people today, really have time, for a social life ???

[THE eXchanger]

Originally Posted by Swanny

[/B]that ALWAYS happens

Oh well not to worry

dearest SWAMMY, re-read what it is, you wrote

it always happens
it always happens
it always happens

sad
sad
sad

why NOT start to create a new reality

where what you want, what you really want occurs

& then, what you want, will happen