How to cope with negativity;

[w0rm]

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[no caste]

I'd buy a Cadbury bar {life uncertain? eat chocolate!}

[Jack]

From what ive come to learn about this world in my short time here it has become apparent that a big part of coming down here to play includes learning how to shine our light in the midst of such overwhelming negativity.

So on that note, because your not finding it to easy it doesnt mean theres anything wrong with you. Its not an easy task to look at all thats bombarded over our televisions and sit there with a zen like look on our face.

But some words of caution..

Turn off your television, it does not serve you.
Instead of researching all that is wrong with the world push it to one side and see what light you could bring to the table. Research the nice things in life, and especially the stuff that grabs your interest. Bringing light to the world is something that will go down very well with jesus, knowing everything about doom and gloom is something that does not really serve anyone in the long haul unless of course there is some kind of plan to apply that knowledge in a way that shines a bit of light on the darkness. What is it you want to do here? I guess thats the first question you might ask yourself.

Having a dislike of these things is natural, and its not something that would benifit anyone all that much in the long term if they were to come to a place where these things are cool, where there is no longer any fear or digsust when faced with such travestys. That removes all the motivation that is neccesary for making any changes here, if of course that is what you would like to do.

Namaste

[w0rm]

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[TheObserver]

True self acceptance ts the only thing that will make you happy. Don't let anyone else tell you how to be,
and don't tell yourself being like the other people will make you happy either,
they may be faking it, and even if they are true doesn't mean it will fit you.

[w0rm]

Thank you very much Jack and TheObserver.

[happyhollergal]

Hey w0rm! I know that it's very easy to become overwhelmed with new information, and it seems that once you open your mind to accept these new ideas, they seem to come from everywhere. It's completely normal (if there is such a disease) to become disenchanted and pessimistic when there's so much out there to take in. What I have found to be helpful for myself, because I do get negative and p**sed off at things that humans do to others and the planet, is to take a step back from the negativity that's feeding me, and find something calming to do. Read a book, go for a walk, find a hobby. Remove yourself from the situation until your mind is open and clear again. I'm not saying that it's good to avoid reading or watching videos of controversial material. Actually, I've learned more about what's going on in the world from doing just that, even though it burns my buns and I wanna jump up and down and tell the world just how bad some folks are and what their intentions are for the rest of humanity. In the end, I am a peaceful soul, so my spirit somehow seems to balance itself out and use the information to try to awaken others, without my pitching a fit. Be at peace with yourself, that is the ultimate goal.
A hui hou

[THE eXchanger]

you first, got to accept where you are
and, embrace that

we can appreciate, wanting to be alone

there is value in that

NOT all people, are nice people to mix/or to match - or to mate with
or, even to eXchange with

sometimes it is best, to just take a little,
and, work with that,
rather than taking in a lot,
and, finding, that it was just much-to-much

you are, eXactly, where it is,
that you are willing yourself to be,
and, that is PURRfect

[THE eXchanger]

now - the smoking, you do that

as, it keeps you grounded

and, the only time,
you breath right,
is when you smoke

[THE eXchanger]

also-you got to go out, to get them

[mudra]

All the situations you are finding yourself into in life are ripples in the field of the mind .
You as the observer of this are perfect as you are . The only things that will change are
your attitudes towards these things . As judgement fades away for self and for others
you 'll come more and more to enjoy the Now and peace will settle in .
You are a spiritual being having a human experience.

Love Always
mudra

[w0rm]

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[Thunderbird]

I was depressed for a long time as i found out more and more how the world really operates.

the thing that saved my sanity and my life was the idea of being of service.

I worked out my heart and my compassion, which allowed me to face the adversity because i knew i had a purpose.

That purpose has saved me countless times. when i get knocked down or find myself in a low vibe way of thinking i redirect myself to my purpose.

i know its not much but i hope this helps.

[greybeard]

Originally Posted by w0rm

So, a few months back I stumbled across this website and spirituality for the first time. I read everything I could get my hands on, practiced meditation and did indeed feel rather, well... happy with myself (which is a big accomplishment, trust me).

Admittedly, I don't go out a lot (a fear of mine). Though, with this newfound self-acceptance I felt the urge to confront said fear.

However, instead of blocking out negativity and returning it with love I began to draw it in - and once again it took over my life. I stopped reading things I'd found interesting weeks prior, stopped meditating, dropped everything and returned to 'myself'.

As far back as I can recall I've always been a pessimist, an over-thinker with an intrinsic fear of the judgement of others. Is it possible this is just me? Something that can't be permanently changed?

What I'm trying to ask is should I be actively trying to change my outlook, or merely begin to accept myself for who I am?

What would you do?

Dear Om
I have removed the W and r, if you wish you can do the same.

Thoughts are really like passing clouds, notice only the ones that have a silver lining, the rest are irrelevant.
This takes practice.

Having experienced deep depression and the acompanying negativity I have empathy with you.

To the good you have experienced happiness and that as you have said is a great accomplishment, so you know it is within your ability to be happy.

There are many things you can do to regain and mainrtain good spirit and frame of mind.

Positive thinking and spirituality are virtually from the same source.
If you havent read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle I would recomend that. Cds by him are also excellent.
Uplifting music is good at changing mood.

Its important to get some exercise, mind and body are closly linked.
Im 64 and go to the gym regularly and that dosent have to be extreme, the council run ones are quite cheap.
They do an exercise prog for and encourage you.

You might be short of Selinium in the brain, go to Holland and Barret or similar and they could recomend an uplifting supliment.

Is your house in need of a little decorating, coluors are uplifting.
Buy pot plants if you havent any.

Start a positive thinking group in your area, or join a meditation one.
Its good to have and be with positive people you can relate to.

There is allready good advice for you on this thread.
The fact that you asked for this is also a great step forward.
the only thing to be feared is fear.
Love and fear cant co-exist.
For me there is no situation that enough Love cant overcome and that comes eventually through meditaion.

Do your best to get back to doing that which has allready worked for you.

Wishing you well

Chris

[greybeard]

This may be helpful
Love Chris

[THE eXchanger]

surpringly; and; yes, this surprisingly 'hit' us

is that; when you start into a 'new' phase

it always, starts in a 'negative' pole

there is 'negative' - 'positive' and, 'zero-point'

oft times,

we search - when we are feeling 'negative' aspects

when we start a project - we make lists
of the pros (+) and, the cons (-)
and, we try to see,
the result of everything-final, and, just the way we want it
(that's zero=point)

zero-point is also LIKE being CLEAR

CLEAR is also LIKE having 'no bad charge'

there are great benefits,
for attaining this level,
it is like sitting between the goal posts
just behind, the line
and, knowing, (as the ball)
you scored THE POINT

We are seeing, more and more people
entering into the zone,
due to the type of SER work (spirit entity removal) work
that we do ~ it is an amasing state of being

but, always, and, in all ways
it is important
to remember

that moving through the starting point / moves you
through the negative poles, without eXception

that is how, it works !!!

as, we said, above
you are PURRfect

start a list, to bless your blessings
start a list, to appreciate your appreciations
start a list, of what you desire
excuse the wants
put your needs on automatic pilot

if you know what you need, it will automatically come to find you

and, most important ~ be happy in the NOW

realise, that others make us, happier - NOT happy

and,

"declare your greatest desires
do it with intention
order up the cosmos (333 333 315*)"

"Will it to be, so, it will be, and, so it is (333 333 315*)"
(but, utilise your soul sigil, or your signature)
instead of using mine

then it all, just happens

love
susan
the eXchanger

[Jacqui D]

Sadly Worm negativity will always find a way in on those most wishing the opposite.
However this does not mean you are negative not by no means but you are extremely positive and you omit love and light within.
By showing you this opposite theme although while meditating and becoming more spiritual it has tested you, feel the strength within now and block that negativity you have seen it felt it they are showing you.

Continue on your positive path now balance the two we all get a little negative sometimes, no one can be perfect only the creator may have that ability.
We are all children learning here, do things that your inner creativity is telling you, when you have found these gifts you will start on the road of dispelling negativity.

And find laughter this is the best medicine you can take.

[THE eXchanger]

if you KNOW what you desire
and, if you KNOW what you do NOT desire
and, you politely accept them
and, you sort them
into two piles
and, you bless/release/and, let go
of what you NO LONGER need or want
only those things,
you desire,
will stand up,
and, SHOW UP !!!

YOU - AND, ONLY YOU

Must acknowledge 'the greatness' in 'all things'

you must see it all,
and, you must recongise,
everything has,
positive / negative - and, zero-point which is CLEAR

THEN, you will clear see, it all

THEN, you will clearly be, one with it all

love/susan
the eXchanger

ps; if you turn a deaf ear, and, a blind eye to things,
they still eXist - you must transform,
all things, that eXist,
into an eXpression of truth, love, and, energy
that works with you,
NOT against you,
and, FLOW with ALL that iS

[mudra]

[QUOTE=eXchanger;191630
ps; if you turn a deaf ear, and, a blind eye to things,
they still eXist - you must transform,
all things, that eXist,
into an eXpression of truth, love, and, energy
that works with you,
NOT against you,
and, FLOW with ALL that iS[/QUOTE]

A great post you made Suzan .
When it's all dark around you and solid as rock
then is the time to look for that Light you have
within You ...you inner Light that is moved by
Love and suddenly you 'll see that there is Light
out there too and there is space ..that you have
a universe of your own ...that you are a center
from which to radiate your own beingness and that
it is as vast as you chose it to be .

Love Always
mudra

[TraineeHuman]

One thing I've seen, Worm, in a lot of people who start on meditation or self-observation is the following. They become much, much more sensitive to and aware of negativity or their own "dark side". May I suggest that that is a very positive step, however much it may seem the opposite. All the more so when we consider that you've had the insight that it's your own negativity, or your own willingness to (apparently, for now) take in more negativity.

In my experience, it's usually necessary to be willing to temporarily go through some pain in order to progress further. I've seen people have amazing breakthroughs in psychotherapeutic insight -- or, as I should say, just in knowing themselves more deeply than before. Then the person doesn't take the next step,which is to act on that insight. And then much of its potential for transforming their life eventually gets lost. And in your case at present, there's certainly the pain of finding yourself "back" at being apparently overwhelmed by negativity and fear. The funny thing about such pain is that as soon as you're truly willing to surrender to it fully and totally accept yourself and your life as OK even with the pain being present, it vanishes. It dissolves, never to return -- as far as that particular issue is concerned. Certain types of pain are simply the prison bars on our own life. But we dissolve them. Yes, you do have Xray vision, so to speak. (Pardon the cliches etc.) So you've got to keep getting out of your comfort zones, from now on and for the rest of your life. We all need to. Then life does become more interesting, more "exciting" in a wholesome sense of that word.

So like a number of the people above I'd encourage you to keep watching yourself and accepting that what is is. You ultimately have no option but to accept yourself however you may be. And it would seem that now you have found plenty of material about yourself that you can observe. Also, the "ego" is a living thing inside you that comes out and challenges you whenever you take genuine steps to become more aware. It knows it is fighting for its life (partially, at least), so it comes out fighting like a tiger. It knows your "buttons" better than you do. Ironically, though, it gets killed by TLC, as the above video by the Buddhist man is saying. The more you can learn to accept that your "ego" or "dark side" is totally and fully part of you, and the more you can truly like yourself and accept yourself with all those warts -- the more your "dark side" will eventually diminish and disappear. In the meanwhile, it will seem to grow bigger. But that is partly an illusion and partly because now it's starting to fight for its life, which it didn't have to before.

May I also take the liberty to suggest that you now need to do whatever is necessary to get back into the habit of doing some meditation every day? As far as I understand, the chief value of meditation for almost everyone is that it enables you to bear the scars and the slings and arrows of daily life much better. You really need a daily dose of "pure positivity", which is what meditation brings. We all need it daily. But doesn't it seem at least very plausible that to give yourself a hefty daily "shot" of genuine, high-strength positivity is the natural antidote to being or feeling overwhelmed by the negativity around you?

[THE eXchanger]

dark does NOT eXist,
it is merely an 'absence of light'

however, were 'light is absent'
it gives you a good idea
of where, it is
you should paint your brilliance

love/susan
the eXchanger

here i will share something with you all,
that, i enjoyed ...

In English:
A university professor challenged his students with this question.
"Did God create everything that exists? A student bravely
replied, "Yes, He did!" "God created everything?" the professor
asked. "Yes, sir," the student replied.

The professor answered, "If God created everything, then God created
evil, since evil exists. And according to the principal that our
works Define who we are, then God is evil." The student became quiet
before such an answer.

The professor was quite pleased with himself, and boasted to the
students that he had proven once more that the faith in God is a
myth.

Another student raised his hand and said, "Can I ask you a question,
professor?" "Of course," replied the professor. The student stood up
and asked,"Professor, does cold exist?"

"What kind of question is this? Of course it exists. Have you never
been cold?" The students snickered at the young man's question.
The young man replied, "In fact, sir, cold does not exist. According
to the laws of physics, what we consider cold is, in reality, the
absence of heat. Everybody or object is susceptible to study when it
has or transmits energy. Absolute zero (-460 degrees F) is the total
absence of heat. All matter becomes inert and incapable of reaction
at that temperature. Cold does not exist. We have created this word
to describe how we feel if we have no heat."

The student continued. "Professor, does darkness exist?" The
professor responded,"Of course it does." The student replied, "Once
again you are wrong, sir. Darkness does not exist either. Darkness
is, in reality, the absence of light. We can study light, but not
darkness. In fact, we can use Newton's prism to break white light
into many colors and study the various wave lengths of each color.
You cannot measure darkness. A simple ray of light can break
into a world of darkness and illuminate it. How can you know how
dark a certain space is? You measure the amount of light present.
Isn't this correct? Darkness is a term used by man to describe what
happens when there is no light present."

Finally, the young man asked the professor, "Sir, does evil exist?"
Now uncertain, the professor responded, "Of course, as I have
already said. We see it everyday. It is in the daily example of
man's inhumanity to man. It is in the multitude of crime and
violence everywhere in the world. These manifestations are nothing
else but evil."

To this the student replied, "Evil does not exist, sir, or at least
it does not exist unto itself. Evil is simply the absence of God. It
is just like darkness and cold -- a word that man has created to
describe the absence of God. God did not create evil. Evil is not
like faith, or love, that exist just as does light and heat. Evil is
the result of what happens when man does not have God's love present
in his heart. It's like the cold that comes when there is no heat,
or the darkness that comes when there is no light."


The professor sat down. The young student's name -- Albert Einstein.

[greybeard]

Exactly so Susan.
You can shine light but you cant shine darknes.
Another example is that electricity goes down the wire but when it is turned of there is no such thing as offness. Electricity is absent.
In the same way there are degrees of the presence of heat or love till there is absence.
So called evil is an absence of love.

However when negativity is experienced it seems very real.
Nothing is good or bad till thinking makes it so.
So it comes down to how we percieve our situation.
In NLP reframing is used to transcend the percieved situation. It is then seen in a different light. When context is changed.
Negativity is only seeing the gloomy side of things, when a proper audit of life is taken there is allways good. We cant develope spiritual muscle witout the challenges inherent in living.

The best teaching on duality I have found is "Devotional Nonduality" by Dr David Hawkins who also expains that causality is a myth, there is nothing causing anything to happen. Everything is acting according to its own unique potential.
The marigold seed has the potential to be the flower but it may not in absecs of the right enviroment, rain and sunshine do not cause it to flower but they are the catalyst wherby the seed may or may not realise its full potential.

We all have the potential for negativity or positivity part down to enviroment which we can choose. Yes we have that choice. It just takes time to develope the positive mental attitude required.
Being of good cheer beneits all whom we come in contact with.
With love
Chris

[TraineeHuman]

One thing I forgot to mention, w0rm, is that I truly don’t believe it’s a sane or balanced thing for a person to read all the “bad news” threads on this forum and certain other forums. Most of that bad news turns out to be false information, so for too many of us it's a trap. (My apologies to the many readers who are already very familiar with all this.) At least a person should balance it with an equal amount of something wholesome. Not that I’m denying that we’re still in the greatest economic depression in over a century. (The share market is booming only because companies have cut back 30% of their more expensive staff. If you do the maths, that explains why their profits have increased.)

I guess it’s true that if you’re very, very spiritually and emotionally enlightened then no amount of false “news” that you’re screwed and oh so totally helpless (or that “you will be” as of next month / next year / etc) will affect you. Moreover, one of the most positive things you could ever do if you’ve genuinely reached that level is to actively expose some of the lies etc.

On the other hand, anybody with a professional background in psychology can tell you that a certain type of person is obsessed with negativity. These used to be called “sociopathic personalities”. You can pick them out easily, because they’re the ones who always convey bad news, and absolutely never seem to have any good news to share. There are lots of them about. Anybody who’s considered psychotic (insane) is such a person, for example, though only some of them are far gone enough to be considered insane. To such people, I say: “If you want to spend your lives looking under toilet seats and searching for the muck you know is lurking there somewhere, don’t expect me to join in.” Sometimes a person needs to just walk away.