Greybeard I admit I did not read your initial post or barely few comments on this whole thread but I popped right here and right now.
I will not quote anyone here, I will rather say this;
whom ever wants attention to himself/herself ,an attention that surpasses normal or positive one ,is driven by ego.
Now to transcend that stage takes humility.
Humility often comes in various shapes and packages, according to any particular soul, so that everyone tomorrow don`t have an excuse that they didn`t know or given chance to change.
Sometimes one`s got to bang his head into thick wall for a couple of times to see the truth and transcend. Some look that banging and quickly learn for themselves.
I banged my head few times in my life and as I grow as a person I try whenever I feel that I will bang again,to stop and think. To grasp where I got stuck.
That`s why ,as I wrote in another thread , I think that firstly you got to love and love more and then see what happens.
Ego is like a disease breaking us down and putting away healthy pride.