Hi MargueirteBee...
The 'now' is also an important consideration. A lot of our misery comes from thinking about the past, or projecting forward into the future.
Ask yourself about whatever you are doing, how do you feel now, this second? If you're feeding chickens.. enjoy the act of feeding chickens, try not to colour it with the thought.. 'I'm feeding chickens for so and so.. and they don't appreciate my help, they take me for granted.. I'm always feeding ruddy chickens, me. Just who do they think they are? Bet the chickens don't care either.... if you see what I mean
There is only ever THIS SECOND. So how are we going to use it, and where are our thoughts during that second?
Alternatively, the respone to:
'Can you help me out?'
'Yes, certainly sir, which way did you come in?'
may help...
Best wishes,
K