Hi Marguerite,
I've heard of this "service to others/service to self" thing for awhile although I'm not sure of the real source of where it came from. Does anyone know of the source for sure or is this just word of mouth, really?
Bottom line is, many people who have given freely to others (service to others) have been taken advantage of and used by some people even to the point of PTSD and/or trauma in some cases (people that are victimized by others)
How in the world can a person like this be of "service to others" when they have been bled dry and have nothing more to give?
In that case those people need to draw back and nurture and take care of themselves first. Just like that old saying....how can your help others when you can't even take your self? In this case the insistence of "service to others" goes too far.
Bottom line is don't feel obligated and do what you feel is best for you.
I hope this helps and I hope I'm making sense
