[Carol]

Agape is correct in the assessment pertaining to Kinsuemei's behavior. Lying and putting up false fronts is just not right, creates confusion, leads to unnecessary stress and adds to the disinformation that is already out there. His story was fascinating but now we don't know if it was all fabrication or if there were some kernels of truth in it. He totally undermined himself and destroyed the trust that others gave to him thinking he was originally telling the truth. Whether he was abused or not isn't the issue. I know lots of folks who have been abused and have gone on to do very positive things in their lives. The issue is how he chooses to present himself in the world (on forums) and what type of relationships he will have as a result of his behavior. I don't think badly of Kinsuemei. I feel sorry for him and what he subsequently will be missing out on here in this forum. However, I am disappointed that he choose to snooker us because when all is said and done it just goes to show he didn't respect us enough to be honest from the onset.