Avalon Singles

[Swanny]

Gone past the lonely stage, now I'm at the fed up and p*ssed off with being a lone stage


Can any of you mystics out there see a woman in my near future??

[vipassana]

Originally Posted by Swanny

Gone past the lonely stage, now I'm at the fed up and p*ssed off with being a lone stage


Can any of you mystics out there see a woman in my near future??

Hi Swanny
I'm no mystic so I can't predict your future for you! However having been single for many years I've gone through a variety of emotions regarding that state.

A few years ago I was working through a bout of severe loneliness and a person who I considered wise suggested something to me. He said that rather than think of myself as being lonely I could try thinking of myself as being alone. In addition he suggested that I could embrace my aloneness and treat myself really well.

I thought it was great advice and found that working on the different way of thinking really makes a difference. I tend to be more motivated to go out and do things that make me feel good. I'm more likely to go to something new on my own. I went to salsa dancing classes which I was **** at but it was great fun . There were about 18 women and 2 men in the class....it might be worth hecking if there are salsa dancing classes in your area

I'm not trying to give advice here just sharing something that has really helped me to enjoy being single a lot more.

[Swanny]

Thx Vipassana
I tried the salsa thing a few years ago
I keep thinking that I'm better off being on my own than being with the wrong person

[Steve_A]

Hi eXchanger,

To some degree you're right. It's not that you've stopped searching it's that you get noticed more when you are in a situation where you're not actively searching.

In my experience, all of my girlfriends during my life were met through a mutual friend, family member or other third person.

If you reflect back, you will notice, I'm sure, that most people meet like that; through third persons. So when you go out with your mates and they bring along some ot their friends that you don't know, could reap results, as long as you are acting in a natural social manner.

I think the old 'one liners' have gone by the wayside these days. When you are in a social situation, you may be seen as you really, honestly are, where you're not under any pressure to be funny, or intellectual, or extra charming etc. Your true personality will show and there will be an admirer out there, using the social crutch of your mutual friends to close in on you.

Best regards,

Steve

Originally Posted by eXchanger

i think its when you give up looking,
they come to find you !!!

[Humble Janitor]

I don't watch much television but the main character played by Charlie Sheen on "Two and A Half Men" reminds me too much of myself sometimes.

He drinks, he has sex with random women and he can't seem to settle down, no matter how hard he tries.

I really don't want to become that character. I have wisened up and cut some of those things out of my life.

[THE eXchanger]

Lots of interesting advise, and, ideas on this thread

perhaps, the biggest lesson of all

is that many of us, think, we need to prepare ourselves for the worst,
and, yet, love, or real love,
needs - no real preparation

to have it, do it, to be it

like truth, it is, what it is

[piers2210]

Swanny, do you actually know what you want? If you do, and i doubt you do or else she would be standing in front of you, then just visualise that person. They will come!

If you haven't worked out who you want, then its difficult to find someone, because you are projecting uncertainty. Even if you don't realise it, your aura/energy can be "read" by others (even though they also don't know they are reading it).

So: just visualise (very specifically) who you want, oh yeah and.... also go to a different pub.

Atb, P.

[futureyes]

Originally Posted by piers2210

Swanny, do you actually know what you want? If you do, and i doubt you do or else she would be standing in front of you, then just visualise that person. They will come!

If you haven't worked out who you want, then its difficult to find someone, because you are projecting uncertainty. Even if you don't realise it, your aura/energy can be "read" by others (even though they also don't know they are reading it).

So: just visualise (very specifically) who you want, oh yeah and.... also go to a different pub.

Atb, P.

oh-wise-one piers ...

what you write resonates with me ...

we co-create with the universe ... higher power ... whatever one wishes to call it ...

if we are uncertain what it is we want ... that projects it self to the universe and the universe can only do its part once we our selves have clarity ... it's almost like if we are uncertain ... the universe receives that as perhaps we are not ready ... so then there is no delivery of possibilities ...

if we are unclear ... the universe doesn't know who to match us up with ... who to even send ... send everyone? poor swanny to have a different gal delivered to his door step every morning ... may sound appealing but that'd become a little tiresome ...

it is about being clear within our own hearts ... and in the visualizing swanny ... she is halfway through the universe and soon to be on your door step ...

oh-wise-one piers ...

[Swanny]

Hi Piers
She should be happy, about 5'5" tall, late 30's early 40's, long hair, slim, no kids at home oh and about 36C

[Dantheman62]

She's got her eye on you Swanny!

[777 The Great Work]

Originally Posted by Dantheman62

She's got her eye on you Swanny!

[Swanny]

I'm in love

[Dantheman62]

nevermind, lol

[Carmen]

Bugger! Don't fit any of that criteria Swanny, only the first

[rhythm]

EYE EYE SWANEEE !!!!!!


WHT NOT JUST ASK FOR THE RIGHT ONE TO COME ALONG


one who will love you for who you are


and let you be free ...

and not try to hold you too tight ...

And of course snuggle up

when the sun goes down

loverly .....hmmmmm...

[piers2210]

You're a case Swanny...i guess i need to hang out with you, or you with me.....fancy a trip to asia? I'm going again soon!!!

P.

[THE eXchanger]

maybe all the singles, should go together LOL

[piers2210]

Ok, asia tour anyone?? Then on to Carmen's for the ultimate, end-of-world party!!!!! No rules, no recriminations, no money back!!!

[Czymra]

Originally Posted by piers2210

Ok, asia tour anyone?? Then on to Carmen's for the ultimate, end-of-world party!!!!! No rules, no recriminations, no money back!!!

This is just not right.

[piers2210]

C, which part of "end-of-world-party" don't you understand? hehehehehe....i'll look after you.

[Humble Janitor]

Unlike Swanny, I can't really put my finger on what kind of criteria I require in a woman.

It's important that she be sane. I certainly don't want to deal with people who haven't gotten their affairs in order.

[rhythm]

Originally Posted by Humble Janitor

Unlike Swanny, I can't really put my finger on what kind of criteria I require in a woman.

It's important that she be sane. I certainly don't want to deal with people who haven't gotten their affairs in order.

Well i guess that leaves me out Humble

[Swanny]

Originally Posted by piers2210

You're a case Swanny...i guess i need to hang out with you, or you with me.....fancy a trip to asia? I'm going again soon!!!

P.

Are you 36C??


Where abouts are you going?

[piers2210]

I'm going where the free spirits live.....

No clutter or baggage on me mate....

Freedom!

Why get tied down to someone you'll wish you weren't with in a year or two?

If i ever get together with a woman again she MUST be a free spirit too.....free of all those earthly habits like jealousy, control, possessiveness etc etc....

[Humble Janitor]

Originally Posted by rhythm

Well i guess that leaves me out Humble

Well, my definition of sane is kind of flexible.

Basically, I have dealt with people who were looking for nothing but someone to take care of them and their affairs and that is not what I want or need in my life. As long as I never have to deal with someone like that ever agian, I'll be fine.