Why are humans so damned nasty to each other!!!

[Ammit]

Hi all

Been off a couple of days due to starting a new job, back looking after our dear old folk in mental health.
Sadly there is such disharmony there, people ( staff ) trying to get others the sack while the rest enjoy watching other peoples sadness.

I wish I never took the damned job. Seems the dementia clients are more human then the staff. So, why do we behave like this, every day another member of staff tells me a story where some one has been lied about to get them struck off the care register. WHY?????????

I am sorry to bleat this out on this forum but you guys seem to listen and have a worth while comment.

I think I have entered a hatred feeding frenzy there.


Ammit

[mudra]

We are Ammit .. indeed we are . This is part of our human condition.
Some are compassionnate enough to take all the blows until somewhere
others that are giving them wake up from their ignorance ...until they are
able to see beyond the mental reactions and step in their hearts.
And the blows that we gave come back to us until we also step in our hearts
and learn forgiveness.

I posted this story already but I would like to share it with you .
And beyond this I think it's a good one to read several times.

The Best Teacher Ever
-- Author Unknown


There is a story from many years ago of a primary school teacher. Her name was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same.

But that was impossible because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. And, Teddy could be unpleasant.

It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers. At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last.

However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise, Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful paper and tied with pretty ribbons, except for Teddy's. His present which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag.

Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my mom used to."

After the children left she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, and writing, and arithmetic. Instead she began to teach children.

Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer - the letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course Mrs. Thompson did.

And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."


With Love Always
mudra

[Ammit]

Thankyou Mudra, wow, its been a long hard day but this story even found enough energy in me to cry............

x

[mudra]

My dear I cried today too .. You are not the only one.... for the ignorance and stupidity you
have been witness to I saw it too in my own realm ..
The lesson Ammit is to learn to forgive as well as think twice or even more before we do and say
anything to anyone that does'nt come from our heart.

With Love
mudra

[Tango]

I know ammit, I was on another thread. I was pretty heated up...

I posted I was going to give a member " What For "....

Mudra, posted that story..... I deleted my post..... It just

STOPPED me in my tracks.... I said to myself Why Bother.....

Trooly,


Tango

Originally Posted by Ammit

Thankyou Mudra, wow, its been a long hard day but this story even found enough energy in me to cry............

x

[Northern Boy]

Ammit no matter where we go and what job we are doing our fellow workers who ever they may be will always want to stick the knife in our backs and climb the corporate ladder so they can feel worthy some need to feel they are superior while others just want to be acknowledged as better then others . so it all comes down to one thing at work for the most part shut our mouths and do our jobs as best we can. Often the need to feel important is the first step out the door those that exercise it often won`t stop and more often then not get caught screwing the wrong person and find themselves updating there resume

[THE eXchanger]

it is true,
that the 'unkind' arrow you 'shoot'
just might be, the one,
that might stop someone
from taking the next step,
where they might of become something,
and, did NOT, because, someone idot,
made them feel, like less, rather than more...

i think, the worst thing,
anyone can do to another,
is disable them,
or, is to hold back, anything,
that will NOT allow another,
to gain their full potential

appreciation, and, recognition for 'good work'
(in my opinion) is a kind,and, polite way of being

of all the things,
i have managed to accomplish in life,
there are a few things,
i do pride myself on,

1) i have NEVER used someone,
to get anything, i wanted,
it was much easier,
to learn how to earn it

(if you deserve it, find an honourable way, to earn it)

2) 'the fact' i have NEVER teased anyone,
NOR, ever 'ganged' up with group,
to take another down

(three or more, against one - isn't a fair fight)

3) i have NEVER been unkind to anyone

(fortune favours the kind)

4) i have always gone out of my way to help others,
esp. older people, and, NEVER expected,
that my good deeds, be rewarded,
i did it, because, i figured,
one day, when, i might be old, and, unable to do something,
hopefully, someone will come along, and, help me

(what goes around, comes around)

5) i think, this one, is the most important one ...
that, i do NOT waste any 'good energy' to 'ever' fight back !!!

if two people need to fight
- then BOTH OF THEM, are FOOLS !!!

[happyhollergal]

Ammit, it is good for you to share your displeasure with us here. Just know that you are in our thoughts and we are sending peace wishes your way. I realize how hard it is to find work these days, so it's not easy to just quit and go find work elsewhere when the bills must be paid and our basic needs met. In just about any profession, there will be those who irritate us to no end, and the best thing to do is not allow them to get under your skin and steal time in your head. Try to be a good example and share what you have with the patients and others who are kind and receptive to your goodness. Your light will shine forth whether "the others" want it to or not. Keep your chin up buddy!

[TruthWillSetUFree]

Originally Posted by Ammit

Hi all

Been off a couple of days due to starting a new job, back looking after our dear old folk in mental health.
Sadly there is such disharmony there, people ( staff ) trying to get others the sack while the rest enjoy watching other peoples sadness.

I wish I never took the damned job. Seems the dementia clients are more human then the staff. So, why do we behave like this, every day another member of staff tells me a story where some one has been lied about to get them struck off the care register. WHY?????????

I am sorry to bleat this out on this forum but you guys seem to listen and have a worth while comment.

I think I have entered a hatred feeding frenzy there.


Ammit

Dear Ammit

I have been going through the same thoughts since I put myself back into the matrix over 6 months ago.

I wanted to widen my circle to bring light out to the world. I picked a retail store that had nothing to do with living spiritual practices.

It has been challenging to manage, not only the energy, but my emotions reacting to particular experiences as well.

I did this so I could practice, practice practice being light amid drama, anger, egoistic people who want to treat others like they are beneath them etc etc

It is easy to be love and light in my home where I can meditate and stay at a higher level of vibration, quite another to bring it out to the world and maintain it.

If you can see it from this angle it may help you to see your higher self may have chosen this precisely because it needs your special light

I believe this is so

Love to you and remember balance, going within and meditation to hear your heart's wisdom

Truth

[Peace of mind]

Its all ego.

Envy, low self esteem, the need to feel important or better,etc...

When one really loves, one can never be hurt.

Intolerance itself is a form of egoism, and to condemn egoism intolerantly is to share it.

[Ammit]

Phew, well, thankyou so much for your kind words, I am bowled over as I did not actually expect a response.

I am back tomorrow , 12hr shift again..... will not let them lower me to there level but I will fight with and for the few that seem weak to them. Already I have created smiles, trust and laughter. Tomorrow I speak to the main problem and accept the truth or not, he will listen.

I worked there 3 years ago, a lady that I saved from chocking, all though has serious dementia remembered me and showers me with kisses everytime she sees me, this makes it all so worth it. Thankfully the srn who almost killed her has gone.

Thankyou all, I take peace from your lovely comments.

Thankyou all.

[THE eXchanger]

ammit, when people are MOST nasty to us,
that is when, they need our LOVE the most

sending you good energy, light and love
susan
the eXchanger

[Ammit]

Susan, thankyou so much.

I work again tomorrow and plan to make everyone smile and think of the more unfortunate amongst us.

Maybe this will make them believe we all need a chance and not a harrassed life.

Ammit

[Ammit]

Wow, I have just found out that the ones causing the trouble are actually Christians........

[Oliver]

Originally Posted by eXchanger

ammit, when people are MOST nasty to us,
that is when, they need our LOVE the most

sending you good energy, light and love
susan
the eXchanger

[Fredkc]

Dear (D)ammit;

First thing, ask yourself,
"What is it they're afraid they lack?"
or...
"What is it they're afraid they don't control?"

Then forgive them for it, and go on about your day.

On the upside,
You leave them an "out" to move passed it themselves.
At least it moves you passed the place where you're "stuck" just reacting to their end.

Worst case?
They'll all decide not to grow out of it, gang up on you and get you fired. While this might not meet your current financial needs, it will leave you in a place which simply no longer supports such antics in "your field of influence".

Of course it's scary, but also liberating.

"Seems the dementia clients are more human then the staff"
Of course they are. They have "nothing to lose" in most transactions, so they have a smaller urge to "strike first in self-defense".

By the way, Hell No, I am no expert at this either. If I were I wouldn't need to remind myself about it by typing this, either.

Good luck, we can both use it

Fred

[mudra]

Third time this vid is posted on the threads this week but I really believe it's worthwhile listening to .

Exchanger below is right . Love is always the answer and as you 'll see below patience and persistence are Love's good friends too..

Love from me
mudra

[Jnana]

Originally Posted by Ammit

I work again tomorrow and plan to make everyone smile and think of the more unfortunate amongst us.

If they haven't seen this guy before, well it's time...

[orthodoxymoron]

Damn It Ammit! Why are we so damned nasty to each other? Here is one possibility:

Life is inherently painful, frustrating, and tragic...but we blame each other. It's got to be somebody's fault...doesn't it? People divorce because they think they've married the wrong person. But my grandmother used to say 'Stay with the first...'cause the second is worse!' Life is good...in so many ways. But life sucks...in so many ways. I love humanity...but I continue to be annoyed by individuals. The more I quest...the more irritable I seem to be. Perhaps a lot of this is because we are in a philosophical and spiritual war. All is not well on Planet Earth. The more we quest...the more problems we uncover.

Pain is the Cost of Doing Business in the Universe. We Shouldn't Blame Each Other. We're All We've Got.

[Jnana]

Originally Posted by orthodoxymoron

Damn It Ammit!

Could that be a Rocky Horror reference?

[orthodoxymoron]

Damn It Ammit...and you too, Janet!

[mudra]

[QUOTE=Jnana;189219]If they haven't seen this guy before, well it's time...

Oh yes this guy is great . I 've seen some of his vids.
What an amazing soul

Love Always
mudra

[Ammit]

Dammit ammit?, blimey is that a new handle?

Thanks for the giggles and enlightenment.

Ammit, no (D)......

[TRANCOSO]

Why are humans so damned nasty to each other?
BECAUSE THEY CAN!!!