Positivity just cannot change some things.

[clarkkent]

i try to keep positive even if/when this happens

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5c8nG-5-dU

[Patrick]

The intent of original poster was honorable, just as all the responses are.

Just think of it as momma or poppa coming into your room before going to bed at night [remember as a kid if you were fortunate enough to have parents like this?].
One came in -and out of concern for your bad, hard day at school -says" It will be easier as time moves on honey. You will make friends soon. They just need time to get to know you".

Then dad comes in and says "You need to assert yourself. You need to get involved. Once you do that, and stop acting so childishly and shying away, you will make friends. Goodnight".

You know instinctively that both came in and out of love gave you their best advice for you.
each had a different perspective, and each gave you insight to what to expect.

This is how family operates.
There is no need to get upset if one does it this way, while another choosing a different way.

It is done out of concern and love, mostly.

Just the way I see it.

[whitecrow]

Originally Posted by Patrick

The intent of original poster was honorable, just as all the responses are....
This is how family operates.

Well said. It's true, there are some things that being positive can't change. Here are some things it can change:

Your attitude - hence, the way people react to you.

Your attitude - hence, the way you react to the world around you.

Your attitude - hence, the way you create solutions to problems.

Your attitude - hence, the way you greet each day, and the way you feel about tomorrow.

Et cetera.