Yep like EMINEM and Slimy Shady, there's always a choice, or is there?
I think the secret is to let go and experience what happens then, clinging to the boat or the lifeboat or the rivers edge won't do forever, you're eventually going to you have to let go, but thats not the worst thing that can happen, you will find there are loads of folks and things to see on the way.
The illusion is the between this and that argument, the yes and no, the right and wrong and on and on. You see something so trust yourself...the question is the answe,r as was said here once today.
Take care jester.