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Old 03-07-2010, 09:23 PM   #4
xbusymom
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Overland Park (Kansas City) Kansas, USA
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Default Re: Service To Others

it is easy to get in that predicament when you have a generous heart... I am in the same kind of thing (or was- well, I still am there but moving out of victim mode quickly)...

here's what I did to re-start setting boundaries for myself, and it made a huge difference in how I felt about not being used and abused by others I tried to help...

Resolutions for Fair-Trade Assistance:
1. promote self-sufficiency for all
2. by giving fair-trade assistance
a. give them an opportunity to help me out with something I need done - in exchange for something they need done
b. ( if they choose not to participate in the fair exchange – then I am not obligated to do their task )

hope this helps...
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