[NancyV]

I can see that you already know the answer to what would be the best thing to do about your marriage. Even when we know what is best to do we sometimes want some support and corroboration that it's okay to do what we think is the right thing. It's okay. There is no guilt in correcting a situation that is not working out. You can't even say it's a mistake, because undoubtedly you learned much from it and so will she. The truly kind thing to do would be to do the right thing for YOU. That will also be best for her.

Postponing what you know you must do is also okay, but will continue your frustration and probably increase your anger. It will also delay her from finding someone who has interests more similar to hers. If you want to get on with your life in the areas you are interested in and allow your wife to find someone more compatible for her, leave sooner rather than later. Certainly if you have a child it will influence your decision and you may stay because of that, which will complicate your life immensely.

Do not accept that there is anything wrong with failing to maintain a relationship. The most important thing in your life is for you to find happiness and fulfillment. If you are not happy you will not make your mate happy. So please reach your decision and do what you know is the correct thing for you, without guilt, without regret, knowing that you will both find another to love and enjoy.

Nancy