Hi Trancoso, I mostly agree on your message, I've been working on that one quite hard. The traditional Jewish people invest in a strong ego, for reasons that you cannot let go of the ego without knowing it's force, before letting it go. They're working on it, I suppose, in Israel. Mildly put and no offense!
I am a Dutch preacher's daughter and grew up within a believe system that I wasn't supposed to think for myself, that God (and my parents) knew what was best for me, serve others without learning about boundaries. That's been a very important lesson for me. I found out, after a long journey, that autonomy, knowledge of self, combined with trust and love for our feelings, also those of pain and sorrow, is instrumental in service to others. Then, there's no dependance on trade of energy. Within a lemniscate, in connection, "and" instead of "or". That's what I believe.