Hey Kevin,
You've stumbled upon an important concept that quite frankly I still work to get my head around even though I've been aware of it for some time. I will say right off that I don't like the word "blame". Instead of "blaming" yourself let's substitute the concept of taking personal responsibility for everything that enters your experience. Now you have the ancient belief system of Ho’oponopono (yeah - you may have to work on pronouncing that!)
I learned about this system in the story of Dr. Hew Len, who took over management of a mental hospital for the criminally insane and cured all the patients without meeting them. Eventually they closed the hospital because the patients were cured. He did this by accepting personal responsibility for their illness and "fixing" whatever was within him that resulted in "their" illness (knowing that there is no "their" since all is one).
It's an amazing story and my guess is it will resonate strongly with you now!
http://hubpages.com/hub/How-Dr-Hew-L...th-Hooponopono