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Originally Posted by Delphi
Hi everyone
I'd really appreciate some advice.
W my 16 year old son has experienced a lot of bullying between home and school. He usually walks alone as his mates live out of the town. Since he grew so tall the bullying diminished until today he got knocked done by 7 or so 4th years. He is more angry than hurt but does not want me to interfere - according to him the school won't do anything when incidents are off school ground and at one point in the past one of the lads who was consistently teasing/bullying him was on the school's anti-bullying council. He doesn't know any of the lads who assaulted him today by name.
I am in a real dilemma. Obviously I want to support him. He doesn't want me to talk to authority of any kind and for Avalonian reasons I do not much trust external authorities.
He is too much my son in some ways ie a maverick and we live in a rugby town where 'boys will be boys.'
Short of providing him with the AK47 he wishes he had (!) any ideas?
How can any of us meet violence effectively without escalation of violence?
To Chris All the best to you and Rosaleen. I'm not sure if I'd ever cohabit again!! Please wish her all the best for her new job.
love to all (with the temporary exception of the lads who hit my son. I wish I could talk to them about interconnectedness)
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I empathize with both of you -it's not nice to hear.
It's easy for us to say rise above it -turn the other cheek but he has to live with the fear of it happening again and you are going to worry.
How he handels this now will shape his confidence for life.
The thing about bullies is they dont believe there will be any consquences.
If his friends cant back him up and he is truley alone he must stand.
If the bullying is heavily physical you must assist him.
A self defence class would be top of my list .
Inform the instructor and he will help.
Kickboxing saved me.No karate or taekwondo.
It must be contact.Training will desensitise him and build confidence.
In a rugby town the lads will be physical and "rutting" flexing their muscles and learning to be young men, it's part of growing up.
I think I met your son?
He seemed a nice lad its a shame they are testing him.
There are loads of ways for him to deal with this himself but it's his test.
Show him other options only if it gets really bad.
The last thing you want to do is involve police -his life will be "tarred"
If you get desperate phone me and I will tell you some "black" ways to deal with bullies, don't really want to post them!
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