[gita]

I’ve worked and lived with alcohol dependents and they all read the same script (no pun indented). What I’m about to say may seem harsh but it truly comes from much experience and a very compassionate place. It’s wonderful to help another being but there comes a time when helping someone for too long make them become dependant on you. She already has an addictive personality as she abuses alcohol and pills and yes I know you said she’s slowed down but the fact remains that she’s still taking them – on top of that she’s become addictive/dependant on you to be there for her whilst at the same time she abuses your kindness – it’s just a vicious circle. The best gift anyone can give in these circumstances are to cut loose the person who continuously plays the victim – this is tough love. Nowhere is it written that you have to help someone at your own expense – this is just a victim/saviour situation where the only direction is to go round and round which never leads to progress. Sometimes in life you really have to make harsh decisions and you have to be strong enough to make the right choice for the highest good of all involved. You are not her keeper and have no obligations or responsibility towards her, however you have a great responsibility to yourself. You’ve tried all you can and she still not responding in a healing manner. You’ve done your bit for her and it’s time to start paying a bit more attention to your own needs. Her soul will thank you for it!