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Old 07-13-2009, 09:55 PM   #9
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Default Re: Important Decisions

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Originally Posted by alyscat View Post
United Serenity - I do not have small children (other than my cats) - just my senile dad <G>.

I certainly understand your concern - I'm assuming you've looked into all your options and it looks to me like you HAVE made your decision - all our decisions are specific to us and our situations. And that's fine.

Just as an aside, I wonder if you could - for a while - let your husband take over the children while you go up to Asheville and start a 'vacation home' - (maybe with 100% custody for a while, he'd be happy to turn it all over to you with visiting rights LOL) - after all, 50/50 could mean 6months/6months. I dunno, don't know how the courts have set it up, and it's really none of my business.

Love to you....
alys
For now, I am a bit fixed in what I am doing, but I am always open to ideas and possible opportunities. I can't see six months on n off working a. school b. I'd go crazy missing them, and I think they would feel the same.

He is a good father, and has an pretty good relationship with them which I highly value. I will keep my eyes open for options. I will pray that something comes up sooner that he desires to move as well. Here's the really odd thing, he remarried for about 8 years and recently divorced. His ex-wife is wonderful and we talk often. She sees the two youngest every week, and even keeps them often during my ex's time. I'd hate to take them away from her as well, so I am wanting everything my way ultimately that being us all moving together... talk about new families situations.. lol. So, I will put my desires out to the universe and let things happen. Ultimately, I trust I am where I am supposed to be each moment, but I like to plan ahead and do all I can once wisdom is spoken and I actually perceive it.

Thanks for the comments.

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