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Originally Posted by oedilroed
Start with talking, there is realy no other way to start.
Without intimacy and trust we get nowhere.
And these must be build up.
We build that up by being vulnarable, and taking chanches with each other.
This is not about some weird "kick" or the satisfaction of intelectual curiosity.
This is about facing your own internal darkness, confronting the fears and guilt that linger there. To see those for what they realy are, for none of that can have any hold on you - but to know that, you must face them. And that requires courage - and a safe environment, in wich to have real intimacy
Without this, I would say; donīt bother.
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I think we're talking past each other. What you say I live day by day. Not that I have perfected it but I've seldom seen someone so honest as me outside this board and I'm constantly working on my humility (I know, call me pretentious but I really do always try to recognise my failings).
When you cam in at first it seemed that you wanted to engage in that process of getting to know each other, now it seems as if we're back to the theory again.
If it's the theory we're on about, the only real question in my mind is: "When there is enough trust with a person, what then and what insights am I to look for in regards to this topic and how do I stay away from abuse?"
Admittedly, that's more then one question but the essence is the same.
Fill me in, I'm confused. (Or empty me? That might be more important when confused but I'd lose my focus.)