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Originally Posted by Czymra
Ladies, I really want a comment on this.
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Here’s my comment on Jack’s post (no offence Jack just my personal view) :-
I agree that probably there isn’t any single person who is mr or mrs right. It’s likely that for all of us there would be a variety of people out there who we might be attracted to.
Regarding the four characteristic’s Jack states that women are inevitably hardwired to be attracted to:-
1.Ability to emote - The ability to react emotionally to different scenarios, if he's in a club and someone spills he's drink he gets a pit peeved off. etc.
I would not be attracted to someone who continually reacts emotionally to scenarios by getting peeved off. This would make me think that the person was unable to discern between dispositional qualities and situational factors. Situational factors, like the name suggests, are factors present in a given situation (like spilling a drink). They are the causes for a behavior: Slippy glass, shaky hand due to an illness, distraction due to worry about someone close being ill, a hemorrhoid flare-up, worry about financial difficulties etc.
Dispositional qualities are qualities which are characteristic of the actor. They define who he or she is: a nitwit, a jerk, clumsy, an arrogant, selfish, no-good, low-down scumbag who ought to be obliterated from the planet.
Someone who fails to give others the benefit of the doubt when a mistake is made by automatically assuming that they are a bad person, clumsy, no good etc would NOT be attractive to me.
2.Protector of loved ones - This one speaks for itself.
Yes I would be attracted to a person with this quality
3.Leader of men - The mans man who is not afraid to voice his opinion and get things done. Has the confidence and charisma to influence other men.
A man would not NEED to have these qualities for me to be attracted to him. A hermit would be fine also.
4. Pre-selection by other woman - If she see's you with a couple of woman with your arms around them having fun or any other similar scenario.
It would be irrelevant to me whether other women were attracted to a man I was attracted to. Furthermore if I was attracted to a man that was flirting with several women it would set alarm bells ringing for me. I would have to check out if he was a player, egotistical, into one night stands because I am NOT attracted to men like that.
I've read plenty of stuff also on what attracts men to women. I don't score well on a lot of the must have qualities etc. The last thing I'll be doing is changing to fit what men want. I'm happy to be me as I am now this moment and if no man is ever attracted to me well so be it.
Kind Regards
Helen.