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Originally Posted by shanonatime
actually you are very spot on here... don't worry- not offended- sado masochism isn't very far off... ha. seriously... state of victim... overcoming this is quite the task... learning to forgive ones self is the ultimate task? but then ones self includes... them... and i'm off to the land of no free will "forgiveness" again.... ha...
cheers. break the victim cycle. break it. break it... break it!!!! breaking it... breathe... yes. :-)
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As I was saying, I'd think that you already know how to forgive, doing it to yourself is just another task. The point is, as you say, breaking the cycle.
I'm trying to remember how I did it but it's rather hard to piece it together. I have the feeling that most of it happened when I learned to build confidence, not on the base of a relation to someone/thing else (aggression or so) but just rest within myself. It should be neither rejection nor attachment... then it just naturally flows away. How you get I really can't tell.
Godspeed